Girl Problems

[MonteCristo]

Originally posted by claWda
what's with half the people on this board telling him to ask her out while you yourselves in real life would've just done nothing?

we all know how hard it is we're all afraid of getting rejected so what's with the "you got nothing to lose" attitude, it's flat out DIFFICULT to ask a girl that you're really into out, lay off the bull****, please

Hey no disrespect to my man Clawda, you KNOW, I've always had respect 4 ya, (even when others haven't) but I have to disagree with you so much here. Or at least, I have to say this...

It shouldn't be difficult to ask a girl out. It's really as easy as saying,"Hey, I was wondering if you'd like to go out sometime." Of course you can always get to know her better first. He-he. But you shouldn't have too much of a problem.

The reason it can SEEM difficult is because you haven't settled a score with yourself. You are lacking a confidence somewhere with your own character. Beacuse of this, the fear of rejection seems like a big deal. Well, the simple fact is, she just may not be attracted to you. She might not think like you, and therefore not be attracted to you. She might not find you attractive, for a variety of reasons.

Have you ever heard known of girls that your friend/s thought were attractive, but you couldn't see it yourself? Does this make that girl ugly? Of course not, she's just not your type, or whatever, right...?

Well, it works both ways...

So ask her out. Maybe she says yes. Then cool, you win. She says no... So what? move on, you're not a loser or anything negative, because someone didn't want to go out with you. You don't have much to lose.

However, Snap, IMO I think you need to be concerned with wanting to beat a guys face in because he's in a PLAY where they are ACTING, and he get's to kiss her. You wanna kiss her? Ask her out, then maybe you'll get to. If not, move on dude, there'll be others.

[Corth]

Wow... reading what's being said... some of you guys had the nerve to call women crazy? your the ones who should look in the mirror.

Snap, you should seriously calm your nerves here. You said you don't trust her. So why try? If you can't trust her it will never be a healthy relationship. She's an actress, of course she's gonna have 'romantic' roles, and need to kiss someone for the sake of the story. You either need to accept this, or find someone who isn't in acting.

[LittleFish]

not really off-topic, I was just reminded of it though:

I had an acting teacher a few years back who was talking about that "romantic roles" thing. He mentioned how in one role (he did character acting), TV series I think, he and a woman kissed for 27 seconds onscreen (in the edited form on TV - also have to mention they never broke the kiss). Then a few years later, he saw her again, and she introduced him to her husband. Neither one was bitter toward the other. That's how acting's supposed to be. (out on a limb here: he may not even like her, and have to assume the role of you and your character to even go through with that scene...

are you a high school junior? (no need to answer, just guessing)

[Knut]

Originally posted by MonteCristo-3DT
Hey no disrespect to my man Clawda, you KNOW, I've always had respect 4 ya, (even when others haven't) but I have to disagree with you so much here. Or at least, I have to say this...

It shouldn't be difficult to ask a girl out. It's really as easy as saying,"Hey, I was wondering if you'd like to go out sometime." Of course you can always get to know her better first. He-he. But you shouldn't have too much of a problem.

The reason it can SEEM difficult is because you haven't settled a score with yourself. You are lacking a confidence somewhere with your own character. Beacuse of this, the fear of rejection seems like a big deal. Well, the simple fact is, she just may not be attracted to you. She might not think like you, and therefore not be attracted to you. She might not find you attractive, for a variety of reasons.

Have you ever heard known of girls that your friend/s thought were attractive, but you couldn't see it yourself? Does this make that girl ugly? Of course not, she's just not your type, or whatever, right...?

Well, it works both ways...

So ask her out. Maybe she says yes. Then cool, you win. She says no... So what? move on, you're not a loser or anything negative, because someone didn't want to go out with you. You don't have much to lose.

However, Snap, IMO I think you need to be concerned with wanting to beat a guys face in because he's in a PLAY where they are ACTING, and he get's to kiss her. You wanna kiss her? Ask her out, then maybe you'll get to. If not, move on dude, there'll be others.

That's true, BUT if the girl is someone who will often be around you for some reason (same classroom or something similar), getting rejected aint that fun.
Proven fact :\

[Daniel]

I disagree Clawda, I used to have that attitude, but seriously, a girl is a girl. She's not more special than anybody else. Personally now if I find a girl good looking, I'll just start talking to her as a friend, if she tells me to **** off, I'm gone. if we have a good rapport, I'll ask her if she wants to do something sometime. Again, if she blasts me, I'm gone. but what's the big deal?

I admit, some girls are so damn good looking it's hard, and I'll admit some I don't even bother. But in the majority, I'll give it a shot. Which has proved fortunate for me about a week ago.

And on top of that, he knows the girl!!! It's not like he has to break the ice. It's so damn easy when you know the girl... geez

[il_paulio]

Mmmm nice discussion this turned out to be Well i have to agree with Daniel here. Im not TOO good with girls but if youre already know the girl its alot easier to talk to her and get her to know you a little bit better. My current girlfriend was already befriended with some friends of mine so when we went out i just talked to her like you do with youre other friends (NO not about sex ). After a while we just talked, just the two of us. We got an icecream or some **** together. And than erm we kissed and now we've already been together for two years so you see how easy it is. And if a girl rejects you for a hobby, interest or job, you can ask yourself is she really worth it? I told her i do alot of 3d too and she was like... mmm okay that's like shrek right? And than i showed her some artmasterpieces of 3d (other peoples work not mine ) and she was like OH youre an artist :P And artist are always interesting. Good luck mate

[Ayanala]

may be someone said this already but here is a girls point of view.

you will regret more the fact that you didn't ask her in the future, than getting a no for an answere.

If you don't ask you'll never know.
She is not going to ask you out. unless she is that type of girl.

question? has she given any clues... like smiles, has she bitten her lip (just a little in a sexy way) when she looks at you?

[Corth]

Yep, pipe'in in again, not like anyone listens to me though

The name of this thread shouldn't be girl problems, it should be "Confidence Problems"

[JHarford]

[claWda]

Originally posted by Knut
That's true, BUT if the girl is someone who will often be around you for some reason (same classroom or something similar), getting rejected aint that fun.
Proven fact :\

thank you my norwegian brother, at least you know what I'm talking about

people, she goes in my class, and we have ALL classes together, I disagree with you daniel, breaking the ice with a girl is one of the easiest things ever, at least for me, hell, I charmed my entire class in just a week!

seems it's the other way around for me, the better I get to know a girl the harder it is to ask her out, it's not confidence problems as some of you seem to think, I just don't want to end up in a situation where I'm around her nearly 24/7 knowing she rejected me, there is no limit to the akwardness

anyway, we're all different, I have no problems talking to girls or even being rejected, I'm a charming and likable guy, but in this case, it's different, at least for me

cheers montecristo, disagree all you want, just nice to have a debate

[Beatrix_Kiddo]

i would find it hilarious if u yelled out something during a play...maybe not ****er...thats a little lame, but perhaps bi*** or other not-so-intelligent words.

But seriously, i would die laughing if i were in a play, and someone yelled out obscene things in the crowd. Maybe she will like that as well. Or maybe throw something at the guy. Or moon him. It would be hilarious.


Sorry im not very helpful. maybe model her portrait. Or draw it if u can. Then give it to her as a gift. That might work.

[PhantomOokami]

Originally posted by claWda
thank you my norwegian brother, at least you know what I'm talking about

people, she goes in my class, and we have ALL classes together, I disagree with you daniel, breaking the ice with a girl is one of the easiest things ever, at least for me, hell, I charmed my entire class in just a week!

seems it's the other way around for me, the better I get to know a girl the harder it is to ask her out, it's not confidence problems as some of you seem to think, I just don't want to end up in a situation where I'm around her nearly 24/7 knowing she rejected me, there is no limit to the akwardness

anyway, we're all different, I have no problems talking to girls or even being rejected, I'm a charming and likable guy, but in this case, it's different, at least for me

cheers montecristo, disagree all you want, just nice to have a debate

I agree. It also depends on the person like you said. Being friends with someone or knowing someone well would kill me if they rejected my affection. Well, maybe not kill.. but I'd be hurt for a while and it'd be awkward.

Beatrix, I think thats a love hate-kinda thing. She'll either think you're a moron or one of those cool guy types.

And I wouldn't just go ahead and model or draw her portrait just yet unless you're going out... kinda screams stalker.

[Chokin Hazard™]

Why didnt you sign up for the play?!

you could have a chance on kissing her without actually asking her out!

[MDX]

I haven't really got a clue what happened in the last 20 posts or so... was tryin' to read 'em, but just glazed over 'em...

Ok, question 1, what is the distance between u & this chick?? question 2, how did u meet her??

And in the 2 yrs (u did say that right), u never even attempted to ask her out?? How many chances have you had dude?? Tons I bet. And I bet you chickened out each time.

Hell, I could call you a chicken if I wanted... I'm a chicken too:P. Had plenty of opportunities... work at same place tho:|... See my prob:P.

Sorry if I'm not v.helpful:P.

[Johny]

eehe, cool thread here i also require you "advice" , if i may :

imagine that i am a very shy guys, who met this very shy girl, who is absolutely nice and beautifull, i know she likes me, i like her..but i cant say it , neither does she...what do i do ?